In my experience with individuals I have arrested or have dealt with, I believe a common factor between most, not all, but the majority, is the family background and structure. I think Tim would agree that being successful in life (successful implying a sense of genuine happiness and satisfaction in life, not necessarily focused on material wealth) begins with family. Fortunatley, in my childhood, I experienced unconditional love, support, and positive interaction with my parents and brother. My family strugged significantly financially, meaning material wealth did not substitute for happiness. Rather, the interest my parents took in my life included recognizing my developmental needs including a healthy physical, emotional, and mental environment, spiritual guidance, support, emphasis on educational success, etc. I grew up with my biological parents (who are still currently married) and observed their positive work ethic, which I inherited.
While my experience in childhood was overal positive, I am aware that I do not share the same experiences many other individuals experienced in their childhood. Thus I a cannot judge any particular individual's predisposition or their circumstances, because I am not in their shoes. I can only draw from my own observations and experiences. This is especially true in regard to the population with whom LE (law enforcement) and the CJS (criminal justice system) interacts. Often these individuals experience, divorce, violence, mental, emotional, and/or physical/sexual abuse, alcholism and/or drug addictions, mental disorders, etc. These situations often inhibit an individual from functioning in a positive and progressive way and unfortunatley, it commonly transitions into the next generation.
While it may seem a child in these circumstances is automatically placed at a disadvantage, there is HOPE! A child can overcome this disadvantage with support and guidance. I'm going to leave this entry at that.....I'm excited to hear Tim's perspective with his background in education.......
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Tuesday, January 19, 2010
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I have a bunch to say about this. It's probably worth a whole post and then some. I think it all boils down to what is normal. We all define what is normal based on what we know, and the #1 influence on that is the home environment, because we spend so much time there, particularly as we develop from children to adults.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is that none of us have a "normal" home environment. For instance, I grew up with a couple horses and several cats and dogs. I didn't realize how different that made my home life until I went to college, and had no animals.
If a kid grows up watching their parents cuss each other out, or hit each other, or get home and drink a six-pack, that defines what is normal to them. So, to do anything else isn't normal. That's, in my view, at the core why it is difficult for any kid to break the cycle. They need to do something abnormal from their view, which takes much higher levels of awareness, perseverance, and support than simply sticking with what is normal.
Perfectly said!! I completely agree....kids grow into what is "normal" for them.
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